Do you have a Gladys Kravitz – that neighbor who loves to know what’s going on?
Do you have a Gladys Kravitz – that neighbor who loves to know what’s going on?
So, what do you do when your day blows up in your face? You know what I’m talking about – those times when everything you touch is an automatic disaster, and everything you once enjoyed has become insipid, and everyone you know is temporarily stupid. It doesn’t happen to me very often, but one day last week I came down with a bad case of the Crappity-Craps.
Not a worrier by nature, I somehow let myself believe that I personally had to come up with the answers to the 78 perceived problems that were clamoring in my brain, many of which belonged to Other People. That was part of it right there. I can do 77 problems, but that extra one put me over the top, and it was too late to effectively distract myself. I tried, though.
My go-to distractions are to create and organize, so I decided I would put a shelf up in my office and get rid of the clutter. I went downstairs to get the things I needed. I couldn’t find the drill I wanted and got mad and yelled, “Where are you, you stupid tool?!” and picked up the box of tools and hardware and dumped everything out on the basement floor. I should have stopped right there when I became possessed, but angrily carried on instead.
Up in the office I positioned the brackets, but was short one wall anchor. I went back downstairs to where I dumped out all my tools and hardware to find another anchor so the shelves would be strong enough to support my books and my ire. In that time I had been diligently working, Grace Kelly had decided the tools were invading her cat space and had peed all over them. Really? Now I had 81 issues: tools I had to pick up that were now whizzed on, no wall anchor I was going to touch, and a floor to disinfect. I should have stopped right there, but angrily carried on instead.
Got the brackets up, screwed the shelf into the brackets like Tom taught me, and breathed a sigh of relief and accomplishment. It looked pretty good, I must say. I arranged my books and Important Things on the shelf and went to make myself a cup of coffee and have some pie in celebration. I had just pressed the Keurig button when I heard a crash in the office. This isn’t hard to guess, right? Right. I needed that extra wall anchor after all. The weight of the books had partially pulled the shelf out of the wall and everything was all over the place and the lamp was broken. I should have stopped right there, but angrily carried on instead.
In a fit I dramatically swept everything from the desk space to the floor, yanked and twisted and pulled the stupid shelf the rest of the way out of the wall and yelled, “There, you stupid thing! That’s what you get!!!!” Well, that’s actually what I got and now had 86 issues: books and papers to reorganize, damaged shelves and brackets I could no longer use, big holes in the wall created by pulling out the anchors, a lamp to fix, and a mess in the kitchen. It seems in my distracted state I had neglected to put the cup under the Keurig and coffee was brewing all over the stove. I stopped right there.
By that point I had spent more than half my day angry and unproductive. I cleaned up the coffee, but left everything else where it was and went to Little Dippers for butter pecan ice cream. In that walking-away space I dropped 54 perceived issues that were Other People’s Problems and not mine to have to fix after all. I would like to say that I cheerfully returned and righted every peed-up thing that happened that day, but I didn’t. I shut the door on the tools and the office, picked up a book and a glass of wine and sat on the porch to read. I straightened everything the next day after I had taken some time off and returned to a state of Normal.
Here’s my point:
Take a breather. I am wishing you a week filled with grace and understanding and projects that work out. And drop me a response – I would love to know how you deal with a case of the Crappity-Craps. I might need some new techniques some day.
A couple days ago I was bidding safe travels to Jennifer and Mark who had stayed with us for several days. Jennifer commented, “We’ve stayed at B&Bs before, but they were always out in the country. I just didn’t know how this would be in the middle of a little town, but I LOVED it! We’ll be back!”
They loved that they could walk to restaurants. They loved that they could enjoy the pool, and that the Inn had lots of little places outdoors to sit and hang out. They loved that the town had sponsored a car show. They loved that everything was so close, but that the Inn was like their private oasis.
This place feels like the little town of Griffith where I grew up. People ask me what they should see while they’re in Mount Joy. There’s nothing to see and there’s everything to see, but next time you’re here, take in these tiny treasures that make Mount Joy, well…Mount Joy.
What are some of your favorite things in Mount Joy and Olde Square Inn? It’s time to come out and enjoy!
Yes, the pool is open, and I’m ready for whatever phone calls might come my way. Don’t worry, though, we’ll keep the crazies at bay!
Just click here to make your reservation. I’ll save you a spot by the pool!
From the time I entered the boutique hotel to right this very minute, I’ve felt renewed, pumped up, energized, open to new ideas, and awed by the events and people at the American Small Business Championship in Dallas, TX. Thank you to everyone who helped put me here by supporting Olde Square Inn during the contest earlier this year.
Our all-expense paid trip was a gift from SCORE and Sam’s Club, awarded to two Champions from each state. I met two #Bizchampions at the airport, exchanging names and ideas before we even handed our bags over to the shuttle driver. We met later for dinner to continue the conversation we had started in the ride from the hotel, and added other entrepreneurs to our group. We collected ideas like kids collect Pokemons.
Our celebration and training began the next morning at 8am with a beautiful breakfast buffet and registration. The meals throughout the day were exceptional – they definitely didn’t let us even think of being hungry. We sat together at tables of eight and had time to exchange business cards and listen to the outstanding stories of our fellow small business owners. Some people had been in business for less than 12 months, and others for over 22 years!
Our presenters were outstanding: Gisell Champman with Secrets of Top Performers, John Pietro talking on Effective Communication, Hal Shelton, who not only discussed The Secrets to Writing A Successful Business Plan, but also gave each of us his book of the same title. We also heard from Besty Dougert the Communications Manager at SCORE, and one of my favorites – Ron Cates @Roncates, a digital marketing expert.
Energetic, entertaining, and a wealth of information, Ron taught us about the ins and outs of having a digital presence, something important now to all businesses. When he was up on the stage, I kept thinking I knew him from somewhere. It dawned on me that he looked like the guy who used to play Ben on the series Lost. Remember him? I mentioned that to him afterward and he said he gets that a lot. Take a look at the picture. It’s Ben.
Later that afternoon when the speakers had finished, Resa Kierstein, Vice President of the SCORE Foundation, presented each of us with a $1,000 gift card from Sam’s Club. I don’t know how a fantastic day could have been made even better, except for maybe that, right? Well, it did! We all met for dinner at the Iron Cactus, where SCORE and Sam’s Club treated us to drinks and great Tex-Mex cuisine. Our events were coordinated by the ever gracious Naina Vasuveda, event planner for SCORE
Later that night when I sunk into my so-comfortable bed at the Joule, I finally understood how truly great it is to get away, no matter how much you love the work that you do and the family that you call your own. Whether you’re picking up the tab or it’s gift someone has given you, stepping out of your every day environment is truly cleansing. Your mind is invigorated with new ideas and new sites and isn’t focused on those 1001 things that have to be done before you can sleep. It’s like new life is breathed into you. The work I love to do is providing people with that kind of getaway, and I experienced how truly renewing it is.
I have two takeaways here:
Even though you might enjoy eating lunch over the sink, sometimes an occasion calls for something a little classier. Here’s a quick guide on table settings that will let you know which fork to use and which water glass is yours!
See? That was easy, right? Back in my teacher days Etiquette and Table Settings were part of the curriculum for our 8th graders in Family and Consumer Science. Never hurts to know your way around a variety of situations. I always loved how a student would report the next day that he had to instruct his mom on where the forks should go. The kids were so proud of their little selves!
The table is always set at Olde Square Inn to welcome you to a fabulous home-cooked breakfast, and I hope to have you join me in my dining room very soon! (I promise there will not be a quiz at the end of the meal, haha!)
Back in my teacher days about the time spring rolled around, my colleagues and I would start talking about what we were going to do over summer vacation. Each week we’d talk a little more, but not wanting to dwell too much on the upcoming break because we still had classrooms full of kids to take care of. By May, though everyone had a good solid plan in place.
I never had one solid plan in place. I had a long list of things like this:
So little time, so many things to have! Then one day someone said to me, “Are you going to make your gigantic list again? You never do everything you say you’re going to do over the summer.”
Here’s what I say, “Who cares?! So what if I don’t?!”
I love, love, love possibilities, and having a long list of them is like stocking your cupboards and refrigerator full of delicious foods to sample. Some things you try are fantastic, some are okay, others like – no way – but there are always things to try! There are always more! Possibilities are a fresh start every day!
Even though I’m not planning summer vacation ideas, I still conjure up lists of choices:
I still have a lot of things I want to do, and if someone calls me on not completing everything on my list, my answer is still, “Who cares?!! So what if I don’t?” I would rather have a lot of plans and hit some of them than have no plans and make all them, right?
In January I entered a Small Business Championship sponsored by SCORE and Sam’s Club to recognize the best small business across the country. Open to entrepreneurs from all states, 1563 business entered with two champions being selected from each state. Tomorrow they announce the winners. Maybe we’ll be one of them, maybe not, but whichever way it turns out, it was fun to do. We gave it a shot.
Check back tomorrow when I post the results of the contest, but today share with me your answers to these questions: What is on your list of choices? What would you conjure up if you knew you could hit it out of the park? I can’t wait to hear about your possibilities!
Winter is a great time to plan a little road trip or pack a bag and grab the car keys for a spontaneous getaway. Yes, I know it’s cold and snowy and it gets dark early, which is exactly why you need something to boost your spirits. Additionally, it’s the slower season for museums, shops, inns and boutiques, making it the perfect time for your reprieve.
If you need convincing, here are five great reasons for a getaway this winter.
I make the best breakfast in town. I’m just sayin’. You know where to find us.
Who knew you could live longer, be more creative, save money, make memories, and be happier by just taking some time off? Make a step to reconnect with yourself this winter and take advantage of the great opportunities around you. To quote Tony Robbins, “Life happens for you, not to you.” Don’t be afraid to reach out and enjoy all of it. Have a great week everybody!
Aimee and I were sitting in the kitchen last night when she asked, “What’s your blog post for tomorrow, mom? Did you pick your One Word yet?” Well, that was a pretty good guess on what you’d be reading today.
Some of you might know that One Word takes the place of New Year’s resolutions. Since I discovered this great idea, to focus on one guiding word rather than to feel bad about breaking resolutions, has allowed me to achieve lofty dreams and to help others.
The biggest take-away for me, as you will read, is that you don’t have to know HOW something will happen, you just have to know that it CAN. Think big for your new year!
Please enjoy my first One Word blog, originally published January 13, 2015:
No, they haven’t all stayed here – yet – but each has played a part in my becoming Innkeeper of this wonderful bed and breakfast.
It’s hard for me to believe that less than a year ago I was teaching 8th grade. Loved it, yet at the same time knew it was time for a change and wondered how and when I’d launch my second career. While I was home for break on New Year’s Day, I turned on the Today Show to find Jon Gordon, a motivational speaker, telling hosts Al Roker and Natalie Morales that 9 out of 10 people break their resolutions before the end of January.
What he and his family do instead of making resolutions is that each would “choose one word” as his or her focus for the year. He advised that you look in – what do you want to be or do, look up – how will God guide you, and look out – how can you live it?
I chose the word INQUIRE, because it seemed to open a lot of doors without demanding an outcome. I didn’t have to perform or get results because I was just INQUIRING. No pressure! Here’s the short version of what happened.
The next day called my long-time realtor friend Mark Thudium and took a first look at inns for sale. Signed up for an Aspiring Innkeeper’s convention. Got a business mentor through SCORE. Found out how to get a commercial bank loan. Learned how to write a business plan and about the importance banks put on financial projections. Put offers in on three other b&bs and was under contract for one other. Retired. Sold my house (twice). Put in an offer for Olde Square Inn. Every single aspect of this was new to me, but came my way because I was able to just ASK how.
Here’s the miracle of the whole “one word.” About a week before closing my financing crumbled, leaving me almost $100,000 short. My word – my prayer – was “How do I make this happen?” I wasn’t afraid of asking anymore, so I put it out there. A friend of an acquaintance offered to lend me what I needed at a rate better than the banks, and we signed the papers November 11, 2014. Al, Jon, the good Lord, and many, many other people guided me to this lovely and beautiful inn.
Where does Jane Pauley come in? If you’re thinking about your second career read her book, Your Life Calling: Reimagining the Rest of Your Life. It’s filled with stories about people like you and me who wonder what could happen next. I’d offer you my copy, but I’ve already given it to a guest!
Two final thoughts:
You don’t have to know HOW something will happen, just know that it CAN.
Al Roker, Natalie Morales, Jon Gordon, and Jane Pauley – your rooms are waiting for you, along with a chat and a glass of wine by the warm fire and a delicious breakfast in the morning. See you soon.
You can find out more about Jon Gordon’s One Word here. Can’t wait to hear what your One Word will be and see how it will change how you think!